The limits on your own mind are different than the limits in the real world. However the limits on your mind prevent you from doing stuff that is actually possible in relationships, making them impossible by default. The real answer for everything is: I dont know. If you think you know, you´re in trouble. If you think you know, and what you know is that you "can't" attract partners, you just materialized that. Mental barriers block real dating opportunities. Challenge them relentlessly.

Say, if you go on dates for six months, do the proper style, do dancing and social classes, break your comfort zone, host parties and make new friends, go spend time in new social circles -- and by the end of it you didnt experience any transformation, then you "know". Knowing that you cant without trying is just a defense to protect your current dating comfort zone. So it´s not really a "cant", but a want. Test limits through bold dating action.

You dont want. That´s ok. But it´s not about what´s possible, but about what you´re willing to give up in exchange. Talking you out of it wont work. Even forcing you do to the actions wont work since you would sabotage the process. But if life forced you, by ending your isolation, burning your fears, burning your dating life, and you had to survive by changing -- you would do it. Excuses waste time; crisis reveals dating capability.

You want to date? you can. You want to become more charismatic? you can. You want to find love? you can. Can you be as good as Casanova, as magnetic as Clooney, as successful as a dating coach? you´ll find the limits there. Because you´re comparing against other people, you´re entering a competition. You dont need to be "as good as" masters to succeed in relationships. Your romantic path awaits action, not comparison.